Many of our issues stem from the fact that we want our lives to be completely comfortable and never feel uncomfortable. For example we want to be healthier and lose weight, but not if we have to deal with those uncomfortable hunger pangs and exercise. We want to save money and get out of debt, but not if we have to get on one of those uncomfortable budgets and not just spend as we want. We don’t speak the truth in love to others because even the thought of speaking about something that could come across as being confrontational makes us very uncomfortable. Even just allowing ourselves to “sit with” some things in our past or certain feelings like loneliness, disappointment, sadness, and such causes us to look for ways to distract ourselves or seek out coping mechanisms.
Ironically though typically good things are larking just past the discomfort. There’s peace, rest, and joy just beyond allowing ourselves to get comfortable being uncomfortable. Not saying it’s going to be easy, because it will take practice. Start first in little things like hunger and exercise and then in bigger things like having a tough but necessary conversation with your spouse, a parent, or other loved ones. Recognizing it is an awesome first step to even allow yourself “sit with” discomfort even if it is only in your thoughts. Practice allowing yourself to “go through”, “process”, “feel” discomfort and over time you will reap the treasures on the other side.